Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Finding peace

I was anxious all last week leading up to the 1 year anniversary of Beaux's passing. I didn't know how I would handle the day - would I lose it, would I be fine, would I want to stay in bed, would I be a basket case? I woke up anticipating the worst but oddly enough I had an overwhelming since of peace. I was able to get out of bed, I was able to go in and get my smiling angel out of her crib, I was able to see the beauty in the day.

Micah and I had planned a while ago that every year on the anniversary of Beaux's death we would do something as a family, something preferably outside without all the distractions of our everyday lives. We put the cell phones, computers and work aside and headed to the Aransas Wildlife Preserve. It was such a gorgeous day, so peaceful and quiet. We took our time, had a picnic and reflected on the past year. There were plenty of tears, a wee bit of a pity party, but most of all it was really healing.





Thanks to everyone for the support, notes, cards, space and thoughts this past week or two. It really means a lot to Micah and me that you continue to remember Beaux and he is in your thoughts too.

Monday, January 23, 2012

The 1st Birthday!!

It came and went and was a ton of fun!! Here are some pics of Charlotte's Winter "One"derland!























more to follow soon......

Thursday, January 19, 2012

In just a few days...

In just a few days we will be celebrating Charlotte's 1st birthday. In just 6 days after that we will be remembering the day that we lost our son. I can help but think how things can change in just a few short days. 


I have filled the last few months on how to make her party just right. I have purposely consumed myself with the theme, the decorations, the food, the favors. It helps to stay focused on something that I have control over and not the awful feelings that come along with January 21st. 


As I said a few posts ago, I write on this blog for help and healing.  So sometimes, not all the time, a solemn mood makes its way to the pages of this blog. Part of me wants to apologize for writing such "sad" things, but I am not going to. I need to type down these thoughts, even 
if lots of people are reading it. It is me, my feelings and the honest truth of the situation. 


I find myself often thinking, “How did I get here?” I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I have wished I could go back in time to those wonderful 4 days we had, before Beaux became sick. Not that there is anything I could have changed, but he would be here. I could be holding him. But, of course, when I really sit and think about it, I know that isn’t fair. He wouldn’t want to come back, his life would not be a functional and happy one. He is right where he belongs. But, in my here and now, I still want him back.


When I do post the pictures of her party...which I will try to do in timely fashion! Know that I know I went "over the top" for her 1st birthday. It is my way of making things pretty and special in this hard and "unpretty" time. 

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Birthday

A non baby blog update:

A little behind with all of the post holiday clean up, but I wanted to post some pics of my small but special birthday. A lot happened in my 31st year on this earth. Things that changed my life forever and that have shaped me into the person I will be during my 32nd year of life.

Micah cooked a delicious "Italian Feast" at home for us to enjoy and I got to spend time with my family!

delicious homemade pizza, homemade dough and everything!

wedge salad

beautiful lilies from my wonderful hubby

homemade angel food cake by mom

the lady who brought me into this world

 chef, wonderful husband and magnificent father
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